We often follow a certain maxim that we consciously pursue in life, even into conflict. We might want to be always honest, always authentic, always act correctly, leave nothing unsaid, etc. And we end up in conflicts, upsets, difficulties with this well-intentioned but hard alignment seemingly inevitably. This is because the soft component is missing, such as e.g. helpful, healing, supportive, healthy, understanding, loving, etc.
So instead of a maxim a more sophisticated orientation is a formula: hard AND soft maxim with emphasis on the AND.
Here is an example: wise language = true AND helpful, rather than just true or just helpful.
What is your hard maxim and which soft one do you want to associate with it for your orientation formula?
Or: What is your soft maxim and which hard one do you want to link up with it for your formula?