Perhaps you know the approach that you are not just one person that is always equally oriented and acting, but that one embraces several sub-personalities within oneself, e.g. the good guy, the career man, the hesitator, etc. Depending on the stage of life and the context one of these sub-personalities is dominating.
Which sub-personality of yours is dominant in contacts with others? Who interacts for you?
Is there a difference in this “front figure” in professional contacts from the contacts in private?
Who interacts with new contacts? Who interacts with familiar others?
And what part is thereby pushed into the background?
Which part should be more integrated, so that your contacts will become more positive for you?
How would this part then interact?