giving or taking
All of us go through life having a more or less conscious idea about how life is, how other people are and how it usually works between them and us. It is a construct, which we have created for ourselves long long time ago and which we double check too rarely. The well known effect of self-fulfilling prophecy is one of its effects. This construct contains several aspects. One of it is the definition about giving and taking between us and others. Some people consider themselves as a rather needy person and concentrate strongly on what they can get and how they can get. Others sense a strong drive to give, some out of love and abundance, others out of a supposed duty. No matter whether your construct provides more positive or more negative effects for you: As long as it is a construct you are not free to perceive the current reality and thus to decide appropriately. With the following questions you may double check, whether you currently need more balance or more of the opposite of your pattern?
What´s your construct like regarding giving and taking?
If you are rather a giving person: How could you recognize, if the current situation demands more taking?
If you are rather a taking person: How could you recognize, if the current situation demands more giving?
What needs to happen in order to allow you to let go of your drive of taking or giving?