restraint

Are you one of those people who hold back? Many consider restraint as a positive trait or attitude. Why is that? Usually this idea comes from childhood and youth, as we heard in unpleasant situations “You better had hold yourself back.” Labeled as a value we use restraint as an excuse for conditions such as lethargy, apathy, ignorance or uncertainty and fear of unpleasant reactions. Restraint helps us to stay in our emotional comfort zone. Of course restraint may sometimes be clever, but not always. Restraint has its price.
How is it with you?
Do you hold back? Specifically or in general?
What are you actually holding back?
Where does your reluctance need to stop, in order to not lead a restrained life?