the question of worthiness
Self-esteem, self-worth, self-respect, self-confidence are on the deeper level of conflicts and disputes quiet often the origin of emotions. When we are confronted by someone our emotional memories of rejection and devaluation get triggered. So we start interpreting the confrontation as a decrease in our worthiness. And many of our reactions are partly subconscious attempts to regain our self-worthiness.
When and how quick is the question of self value up for you?
What would you need from your conflict partner in order to meet the confrontation from a basis of solid self-worthiness?
Who would be the better source for getting this?