avoiding enjoyment
Are you one of the few gifted people who can really enjoy life and take advantage of the opportunities that everyday life provides for it? However, when life offers an opportunity to be happy many people fall in a pattern which avoids exactly this. Because we are not used to it, because we are familiar with the fact that there is something to long for, because it seems to be defined that luck is desirable but not accessible, because it is the old Church’s moral to spend life rather in diligence and abjuration, because – especially among us Germans – the history still has influence in our lives, because … maybe you’ll find your own personal supplement here.
The luck/enjoyment avoiding patterns express themselves for example in
- focussing your attention on something that creates worry or anxiety
- perfectionising something that is already good
- doing something that was waiting to be done for a long time, but is neither urgent nor important
- filling the time with social contacts
- buying things that you have to get supposedly
- getting your own body finally in athletic top form
- learning something you have always wanted to.
The examples listed cross the edge of the area of avoidance patterns when they neither are really crucially necessary nor going along with real joy.
What are you hypocritical about when you could enjoy life?
How would it look like, if you instead opted for the enjoyment of life?