We want to learn from life, we are after personal development, growth, insights, wisdom, maturity, creating a meaningful life, orientation and inner peace. Therefore we look for role models, teachers, masters, coaches, books, etc. and enjoy the self-determination in our search.
The unpleasant moments and phases in life we want to cut off and at least not link up with this wanting.
Or, would it be worth a try? Then this question could be interesting:
If life was your teacher, what´s the current lesson for you?