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We prefer results and insights rather than experience. The route is the goal. We all know that phrase. And yet often and especially in difficult situations we cannot implement this wisdom. We follow what we want to achieve with a lot of energy and attention, and devaluate the lifetime on the path in respect to […]

Often we fall into stress or panic when we realize that we cannot determine what happens in our lives. When something unplanned, unintentional happens. We strive actually almost every day to do everything right and thereby make our lives good for us. In this efforting and designing we often overestimate our control over life. And […]

If we are in an outer or inner stress situation , we often change the way we communicate. For example, the tone turns aggressive or moaning, the message´s content is reduced, the ability to perceive limited or we start with loading up a pile of complaints on our counterpart. That’s all understandable, but not helpful […]

Let’s have a look at what you need in a current emergency situation. It’s not always about physical survival, but often about external predicaments that cause an emotional need, such as feeling safe, feeling respected, wanting to safeguard the own value, healing a heartache. The own neediness feels to be then quiet high. We usually […]

When we are in trouble, we all do not make it to the optimum of our competence. We are emotionally troubled and often reset into states in which we were more young, powerless, inexperienced and less confident than we are now. Therefore, let us try to use a simple change of perspective: Imagine a wise, […]

There are several ways to categorize the impulsive reactions to a difficult or stressful situation. I offer here one of them: mentally – intellectually emotionally – ecstatic physically – active Depending on former imprints we all have a preferred tendency to one of them. And if the other person has a different imprint, we often […]