Do you know that?: You meet an old friend and on the one hand you think, that he is still like he has been, and on the other hand, that you yourself have changed a lot ever since. Even with our day to day- encounters we like to assume that the other is still the same like yesterday. This assumption is not really thought through, but it brings us emotional security – like the ostrich principle: I just do not spend a closer look, then he’ll still be like he always was, and I know how best to behave. This leads to a defined relationship and prevents a real encounter. We know from ourselves that we constantly take smaller steps of maturation as well as major development steps. Some go faster, some slower, some gradually, some over night – but no one is stagnating.
How much chance do you allow for others to live their development in an encounter with you?
How do you invite the new? How do you prevent it?
How much “new” can you tolerate?