personal borders

Border violations are one of the elementary causes for emotional conflicts. They happen physically, e.g. by getting touched without allowance, but even more in verbal forms, ranging from interferences in personal affairs, getting a comment in the office about private stuff up to getting instructed – you name them. And even though we all know that personal borders are to be respected, many do nothing or too little for protecting them. This is only ever possible, if you give yourself the inner allowance to do so and are ready to confront; which is sometimes blocked by an unreflected maxim of harmony. Thus, time to reflect:

Which of your borders gets violated sometimes?

What is the thought that keeps yourself away from reacting immediately – or even later – and showing your border?

How would you formulate it in one sentence, if you really allow yourself the border protection?