When we wish for security and therefore activate something in order to make us feel more secure, we often ignore the fact that it is all about a subjective feeling of security rather than an objectively more secure reality. We feel better, when we save money  for a financially more secure future without being really able to know, if the money will be of the amount needed then. We ask for the confirmation of our beloved boss, colleague or partner to stay and underestimate with his or her “yes” the possibility of him not really being able to know it himself. We could list many more of these cases and relax into the allegedly security.

Or we can challenge our need for security:

What do I actually need this security for?

What do I think about myself and my abilities and possibilities in case of something unexpected? Which age does this impression count back to?

How do I underestimate myself?